services.
What is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialized branch of talk therapy. It is designed to focus on adult relationships and sexual issues. Clients are free to openly discuss their sexual lives and concerns. Explicit or strong language may be appropriate at times. Sex therapy will never require clients to perform sexual acts or remove their clothing during session.
If you are located outside of Texas, therapy is not available at this time. However you may book a 50 minute consultation to ask questions or obtain resources. This is not a therapy session and can be accessed from anywhere in the world.
Renegade Kink + Sex Therapy offers virtual sex therapy sessions to clients 18+ years of age located anywhere in the state of Texas. Sessions are conducted virtually through a HIPAA compliant video chat. During sessions clients must be in a safe place with a closed door between them and other people.
kink.
Renegade works with a wide variety of kinks, fetishes, BDSM practices, and other non-conventional sexual practices. We help clients navigate new kinky play, and negotiate kink scenes or kink relationship agreements. We work with individuals or couples who are in kinky dynamics and want a therapist who understands and who won't pathologize their lifestyle. Some clients may carry shame or discomfort about their kinky preferences or fantasies and want to explore finding peace with their desires. Others may want to learn more about kinky play or the kink community. We are happy to work with long-time kinksters and those who are new to kink practices. Renegade promotes RACK (risk aware consensual kink) and educates on kink safety practices.
religious sexual shame.
Many religious systems promote ridgid sexual rules that may prohibit and suppress diverse sexual behaviors. Some who have left or are leaving religious communities find that sexual shame and religious trauma may linger long after the beliefs have changed. These remnants of indoctrination can hurt, shame, and stifle sexual expression or identity. Some clients may want to reclaim their religion in a way that honors their sexual selves, or find a different religion that they connect with, or choose to leave religion behind altogether. Shame inhibits sexual expression and joy. Religious sexual shame often lurks and quietly represses self-acceptance and sexual abundance. Renegade can help clients integrate their religious and spiritual beliefs with sex-positivity and self-love.
Consensual Non-monogamy.
Polyamory, open relationships, swinging, and similar non-monogamous relationship configurations have been happening throughout history, often in secret. Renegade works with all kinds of relationship configurations. Clients may want a therapist who understands and accepts these non-conventional relationship styles. With Renegade, non-monogamous folx can work on relational issues like trust, communication, sex, connection and other life topics in a setting where their lifestyle is understood and accepted. Others may want a therapist to guide them in opening or closing a relationship, and navigate what non-monogamy means to them. In some situations, a couple or individual may be in conflict about if they want to open their relationship or remain monogamous. Exploring core beliefs can give space to sensitive conversations regarding issues like jealousy, sexual fidelity, relational values, or infidelity. Renegade views non-monogamy with the attitude that love is abundant, though time and energy are limited resources.
queer community. LGBTQIA+
Renegade fully stands with gender and sexual minorities. For clients who are a part of this community, all Renegade therapists are queer-friendly. Many clients who are part of this community struggle with queer-specific concerns as well as universal topics. Our therapists are educated and prepared for the complex variety of this community.
For clients struggling with their own sexuality, or coming to terms with a loved one's identity, we utilize therapy skills and compassionate education to facilitate clients finding their way forward. We are not here to indoctrinate or preach, but rather promote self reflection and personal growth.
Painful Sex
Pain during penetrative sex
External/ vulva pain
Tightness, burning, low sensitivity or numbness
Vaginismus
Chronic pain
Increasing access to pleasure
Improving partnered sex
Overcoming shame
If you experience pain during sex, you are not alone! In fact, 1 in 3 people with vulvas will experience pain or discomfort with sex at some point in their lives. Renegade works with those who feel stuck in trying to find pleasure in the presence of unwanted pain. Not being able to show up in sex the way we want to can affect our relationship to ourselves, our bodies and our partners. It can feel so defeating and lonely. Not to mention that health care professionals are not given enough training in this kind of pain and often don’t take it seriously. At Renegade, we believe your pain is real, it matters and we hope to help you find tools and resources to overcome it. Through relaxation techniques, identifying negative beliefs, and increasing access to pleasure, we work to empower clients to redefine and reestablish their relationship to sex and pain.
Sexual Communication.
Renegade works with clients on how to express their sexual interests and feelings to their partners. It can be scary to be so vulnerable and we explore a myriad of communication techniques and emotional skills. Regulating emotions during vulnerable moments is something that takes time and practice.
Sexual Education.
Renegade is here not only to provide therapeutic work but also education and information about sexual wellness. If clients have questions or want information about:
Genitals
Sexual Pleasure
STIs
Kink Activities
Sex + Gender Orientation
Sex Positive Language
Barriers (contraceptives)
Sexual Props (toys)
Educational Resources
How to engage in specific sexual activity
This is a space to promote thorough sexual education and give clients a chance to ask those curious questions or access knowledge that can be challenging to find.
General Topics.
Renegade therapy also offers therapy for a myriad of other relational and sexual concerns. these include:
Sexual performance anxiety
Sexual and genital function
Sex-positive parenting
Desire discrepancy
Body shame
Out of control sexual behavior
Sexual compulsion
Desire Mismatch
High desire/ low desire partnerships
Rejection
Pressure and expectation
Improving sexual communication
Increasing physical and emotional intimacy
Reducing barriers to desire
Renegade works with couples who find themselves in a partnership with differing levels of desire or interest in sex. Especially in long term relationships, consistent sexual intimacy can be a challenge to maintain. Partners can get stuck in a cycle of rejection, pressure, and avoidance, leaving them feeling disconnected. At Renegade, we work to better understand this cycle, improve couple’s awareness of their own desire and their partners and find recovery for past sexual wounds in the relationship. We’ll work on establishing what are the things that move us toward sex and what are the things in our lives that serve as a barrier. Instead of bringing one partner to the desire level of the other, partners will find their middle ground of sexual satisfaction and have a greater ability to get their needs met.
Sexual Pleasure.
While more and more places teach Sex Ed, many people were not taught about sex in a pleasure-focused way. Each person is capable of owning their own pleasure and navigating their own orgasms. Renegade can work with clients on pleasure-focused sex and masturbation. A pleasure-focused lens reduces pressure to perform in specific ways and is not goal-oriented. While orgasms are a part of pleasure, pleasure is much more encompassing. For clients that want to embrace their own pleasure, Renegade can work with skills, strategies, and emotional exploration to enhance their pleasure experiences.
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